Going through a breakup sucks, there’s no need to sugarcoat it. It will hurt you, it will make you cry, and it will suck. But there are things you should know when you’re going through such a thing, and there things you can do stop crying every two minutes. Perhaps, you are not ready to hear these advice yet, but take some time to read and try to think about it.
#1: It’s okay to cry.
You need to cry in order to let everything out. Cry as much as you need to, and as often as you need to! Nobody should feel embarrassed to cry after a breakup. If anything, it helps cleansing the body and soul from all of that bad energy. Plus, you’ll actually feel better afterwards.
#2: Don’t stalk them.
I know you miss them very deeply and you want to know about them and what they are doing, but checking their social media accounts every two hours to see if they have posted anything, won’t help you out! You need to either ignore those things completely, or, if you feel like you won’t be able to resist the temptation, simply unfollow them. Trust me, you’re better without them.
#3: Be happy because it happened, don’t be sad because it ended.
This little advice might be a bit cliché but it is still entirely true. The best way to deal with the sadness of a breakup is appreciating the good times you got to spend with that person, instead of mourning the loss, be happy that it happened. But please! Don’t hold on to these memories to keep on clinging to your relationship. As another cliché saying goes: All good things must come to an end.
#4: Healing isn’t a competition.
A lot of people, as soon as they get out of a relationship, try to prove who can heal and move on faster. Don’t be like that. You are not in a competition with anybody. Learn to heal at your own rhythm, doing your own thing until you finally begin to feel better.
#5: Take time to be alone.
Again, a lot of people want to prove who can get in a relationship faster, trying to prove they have already moved on. Listen, if you happen to find true love again, go for it, but if you haven’t, it is always good to take some time to be alone… to learn how to be comfortable and happy with yourself again before sharing your life with others.