If you have ever felt like everyone is getting ahead of you in life, especially when it comes to work, then you are not alone. Actually, I could bet you A LOT of people feel the same like you do.
The thing is, we have grown up in a generation that strives for instant success, in a generation that is constantly competing against each other to see who can achieve their goals faster, who can get more money, who can do better in life.
And, although a dose of healthy competition is always good, the truth is, that sense of being in a constant battle to win at life has messed up in such a deep way that we are constantly feeling like we are lagging behind. When that’s actually not the case.
Blame it on the high expectations.
You can blame that horrible feeling on two things: One, society, and two, yourself. Here’s why. First, society, because like I said, we have grown in this environment that tells us that if we haven’t made it by 25, we are pretty much done.
That’s a huge reason why everyone (and I mean, everyone, not just you) could be doing the very best at work and still feel like they aren’t doing enough, or that everyone seems to have everything put together but them.
The second reason is yourself. You see, we tend to have this huge expectations about our lives in the workforce: Getting a dream job, being the very best at what we do, getting those promotions… And when one of those things simply don’t go as planned, we feel like we are lagging behind. Even when we are doing just fine, we fail to see it.
Of course, your coworker might never tell you this, but they are probably feeling just like you are. They might think you are the one who’s got it all together while they are struggling to keep things afloat.
Drop the idea that everyone is getting ahead of you.
Removing that sense of competition we all have implanted in our minds can be quite tricky, but it can be done. You have to stop thinking everyone is getting ahead of you, because no one is!
You see, life’s a competition, but you are only competing with yourself. You can’t possibly compete with others to see who can be the very best at work and in life because you might be in two completely different situations.
Maybe your coworker Jimmy managed to get that promotion at 26 years old, but maybe you’ll get the job of your dreams at 28 years old and settle down for life. You see my point? Everyone is racing their own race, even you, and everyone’s life moves at a different pace, there’s really no point in comparing yourself to others. You aren’t lagging behind, you are moving to your own rhythm, you are fine, everyone is, just stop worrying so much about it.